Ep. 16: How should we be talking about mental illness? | Some Scuffs

What it means to move Beyond the Label. Subscribe on iTunes, Spotify or Google Podcasts.   In the last couple of years, the conversation around mental health conditions has changed dramatically. Using terms like "crazy" and "神经病" to describe those struggling with mental illness is no longer socially acceptable. The taboo surrounding the topic of depression and anxiety has... Continue Reading →

Ep. 13: Great (parental) expectations | Some Scuffs

You bring dishonour to your family. Subscribe on iTunes, Spotify or Google Podcasts. There are those who become doctors and engineers and architects, and volunteer for UNICEF while serving in their church choirs and still managing to spend Sundays with the family. Whose parents are positively glowing whenever they speak about their golden child. And then there's people like... Continue Reading →

Shy, not boring

Quiet people used to get a bad rep, but no longer. The rise of social media and digitally mediated communication tools has brought introversion to the fore. What once was a character flaw is now a celebrated personality trait, a shift perhaps propelled by introverts themselves finally emboldened by these new faceless platforms to speak up.... Continue Reading →

Ep. 2: She has no personality | Some Scuffs

"Am I boring you?"   Subscribe on iTunes.   Conventional wisdom has it that if you can sit in "comfortable silence" with someone and not feel restless or awkward, you're in a good place in your relationship. Where does one draw the line between comfortable silence and polite boredom? When you're speaking and your conversation partner's... Continue Reading →

How not to give a compliment

"Show me that gorgeous smile."   Look, I know I'm not hideous. But as a woman who is neither particularly handsome nor well put-together, I don't get a lot of remarks on my physical appearance (save for the daily affirmation I get from my eternally supportive team at work, God bless them and their compulsions to... Continue Reading →

Between us, let’s just be honest.

"Babe help I fucked up" reads a little box that pops up at the bottom right corner of my desktop screen. It's late morning and the office is quiet. I open the Telegram message. "I fucked up so bad." What happened babe??? "I cheated." Are you okay?? "I cheated. He found out." "I don't know what... Continue Reading →

Don’t say it.

What is it about the phrase "I love you" that it has so much power over everyone involved in its exchange? That it can mean so little, or so much, depending on who's saying it and in what context? That it holds the potential to be misappropriated? Or cheapened? That it can be wielded for purposes of... Continue Reading →

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